They viewed my post as an attack on them and saw me as some whiny uppity suburban designer (they didn't read my profile very well) on my high horse that they felt they could personally attack which led to many mean spirited comments directed towards me....not at the system which I was questioning and pointing out is obviously flawed. I haven't done a tally, because I'm trying not to read them anymore and leaving it up to the editors...but there were also many kind comments and people trying to take my side, but often saying very rude things back to the original smack talkers. I do appreciate the people who did try to answer the questions I was asking in a nicer manner.
It's not a huge shocker. I mean if you read any post, watch any video, follow and facebook article, you can easily see the hate that's easily spread from a keyboard. I mean they thought I was spewing hate just because I pointed out the difference in school supplies over 25 years. By reflecting over this situation I have a few points to make on my personal blog.
- I did not choose to defend myself on the OKCMB because I don't know those people and whatever I said back to them could just as easily be misconstrued again causing further hatemail and "ain't nobody got time for that!"
- Several things popped in my head that I could've retaliated with and some of them were quite funny but since my sense of humor was already misunderstood, I kept my mouth shut. Haters gonna hate.
- I am sorry if any of my teacher friends who are reading this took offense to it. I really did want to know answers about what is provided for you and sadly it seems no one provides anything including paper for teachers. This shocked me. I honestly didn't know that. I knew you spent a lot of your own money on your supplies but I thought at least copy paper was supplied!
- I will say here in my defense, in case anyone is unaware, that I bought all of my daughter's school supplies on her list, I bought extras, I also bought extras as needed last year throughout the year, and I will do so again this year. I volunteered my time in her classroom, in the school, and on field trips and I do so happily. I want to be an active involved parent in my child's class. I'm not sure how my post led so many people to believe I didn't do those things but rest assured I do!
- The backlash of this was a nice reminder of why I would never want my personal family blog to be that famous. While my skin is pretty thick, I don't think I could take comments bashing my husband or daughters which I know happens to every well known blogger out there.
- I write for pleasure. I write for fun. I write to get things off my chest. I write to make myself laugh. I write to reflect. I write for me. I know other people may enjoy it and I'm glad they do, but at the end of the day I write for me and if no one read this....I'd still do it! (But thanks for commenting and reading Mom and Mona!) Having said that, my writing for the OKC Mom's Blog is a little different and for a varied audience and I will take a more serious look at what I'm putting out there before publication from now on. That doesn't mean I'm gonna stop being sarcastic though!
- There's no such thing as bad publicity. While the hate mail poured in, the numbers kept going up, up, up on my pageviews and thanks to those haters, I feel a check coming on. Maybe I should use that money to buy supplies for Liv's teacher....
Now I just gotta work on my second post for the month...who should I aim to offend this time? Policemen, doctors, politicians, Christians? The options are really endless!! (That was a joke guys, come on, can't we all just laugh?!)